Kiss My Astro: Your January 2019 Horoscope

As we say goodbye to 2018, we’re also bidding a fond farewell to a whole mountain of drama. Some years try the patience of saints, and last year was one that tested every relationship at just about every level. Eclipses in Leo and Aquarius brought into question where we belong and if we’re fundamentally lovable (most acutely for people with planets in Leo, Aquarius, Taurus, and Scorpio). Meanwhile Jupiter in Scorpio had us all digging up our buried psychological wounds, and to top it off Venus retrograde tossed six weeks of relationship review into the mix. Luckily, we’re all coming into 2019 with more information and a clearer sense of what we’ll no longer put up with. Let’s raise a glass to finding the kind of connections that improve our lives. Let’s create the experiences that help make the world a little kinder, a little sparklier, a lot kinkier—whatever energy you want to call into the new year. For extra insight, you can find me for readings and custom astrological portraits at flaxandgold.com. Happy new year! 

Aries

After a year of slowness and inner work, it’s time to dust off your dancing shoes. Welcome a new sense of vitality, curiosity, and energy. You may need a little more freedom in your relationships this year—you’re being called to follow what inspires you, what helps you come alive. Don’t get trapped into thinking you’ve seen it all and done it all. Now is the time to be the badass you know you can be, and begin a new adventure.  

Taurus 

In many ways this year will be kinder and gentler than last year, but there is one major hitch: you don’t get to stay in your rut. In March, Uranus—planet of queer liberation, sudden changes, and everything out-of-bounds—is moving into your sign and will settle in for the next seven years. Now is the time to consider what changes you’ve been resisting that will really improve your life—don’t confuse being comfortable with being happy. Let your routines transform, and welcome something strange and wonderful into your world. 

Gemini

You definitely don’t have time anymore for some of the people you used to find entertaining. You don’t have to be mean, but you can step away from any scene that’s making you feel more worn down than lit up inside with some inner flame. This is a year of choosing the people who are good for you, not just the ones who make you feel good for an hour or two. Get serious about what matters to you most, and who shares your values. This year is inviting you to focus, prioritize, and even commit to the relationships that help you live your best life.  

Cancer

This year will bring you some pain but a lot of gains with it. You can always choose to avoid pain—and miss some of the rewards that may come with it—or choose the path of growth. Like emotional weight-lifting, you’re learning to endure a certain level of discomfort so that you can get much, much stronger. Particularly, pay attention to how you act when you feel vulnerable. Becoming more open, calmer in the face of criticism or rejection, steadier as you don’t internalize other people’s projections—these are the goals you’re moving toward this year, and it begins with prioritizing self-love. You are much stronger than you think, and this year gives you plenty of opportunities for stepping into a kind of power few people have. 

Leo

Of course you look fabulous when you’re dressed to impress, but remember that you get to be adored for your full self. You’re at your most charming when you’re suffused with some kind of inner joy, not when you’re giving everyone what you think they want to hear. This year invites you to remember what fills you up, what makes your eyes sparkle, what helps you claim your full body—and work it. This is a time when your magnetism is extra high, but remember that the goal is to connect from the heart or you may feel unseen and empty in the end—whether you’re looking for a long term love or a super casual hookup. Don’t chase meaningless experiences—casual doesn’t have to mean empty. Make every connection something real, something to remember. 

Virgo

The families we choose are often just as messy as the ones we were born into, so when I say this is a year to focus on your family I know this won’t feel hella cozy to all of you. But family is what’s up for you this year. You’re in sore need of a place—or a group of friends, a collective, a poly network—that will help you know that you belong, that you are loved, that you are necessary. Partnership can help with this, but you need more than just one person to build a home. This year, spend some time addressing whatever blocks you from opening up to this experience—to choosing and being chosen as family. There is deep love available for you, if you learn how to show up for it. 

Libra

Last year reset the clock for you, and this year finds you ready to make decisions about the path forward. Even the most introverted among you will find yourselves more sociable this year. In all the bustle of friendship and activity, keep saying yes to what helps you feel most alive and no to everything that feels like empty distraction. Find the words that have been waiting for you to name the things you haven’t yet named.    

Scorpio

You can’t always get what you want, but this year you may be in the difficult position of getting just that—so be sure you know exactly what it is you want! Many Scorpios have a healthy suspicion of anything that appears too easy, too “boring.” Really, you find it easier to trust the evils you know than guess what could go wrong in a situation that looks on the level. But 2019 is asking you to expand your perception and open up to new ways of sharing joy, pleasure, and sensuality. Remember that pain isn’t your only teacher, and that happiness doesn’t have to be boring.

Sagittarius

That extra-special glow you’ve got right now will last most of this year, and is a little like a lucky lottery ticket—you can spend it well, waste it foolishly, or forget you have it and never reap its rewards. As Jupiter moves through your sign this year, you’re being carried along by a gust of enthusiasm, optimism, and exciting new opportunities. Now is the time to act on whatever you’ve been dreaming about and too shy to make happen. Reinvention, renewal, and new connections are in store for you as you follow this thread of energy. Keep choosing love that gives you the freedom to change and grow. 

Capricorn

Some years test our grit; others offer us opportunities to soften. 2019 is such a year for you. You’re deep in a learning process, but your regular tactics (rolling up your sleeves, making a plan, tackling the hard work till it’s done) won’t help you here. Instead, this is a year of letting yourself be surprised—especially by experiences of tenderness, comfort, and caring. Don’t push something away just because it’s unfamiliar. Let yourself soften, open, and risk a little more. Sensitivity and true resilience go hand-in-hand.  

Aquarius

At last, you’re ready to turn around and walk away from all the questions that plagued you for the last few years. Your relationships have been full of surprises, revelations, and revisioning for some time now, and you’re finally ready to stabilize again. Take what you’ve learned and trust that the decisions you make now are better than the ones you could have made two years ago. Dare to reach out and take a chance on someone, but remember that where you’ll really shine this year is in your relationship with groups. What do you want to transform? Who do you want to do it with? 

Pisces

Little fish, this is a year for you to shine like some majestic sea creature bouncing rainbow prisms off your scales in an perfect arc of sunlight. Hope you’re up for that. What you’re aiming for is bigger and grander than anything you’ve done yet, but don’t worry—this is one of those years when you get to reap the rewards of what you’ve been working on for many years. Relationship-wise, this means you’ll have more eyes on you than you’re used to, which can bring all kinds of opportunities. Just remember that if you keep showing up honestly and with a clear sense of your strengths it doesn’t matter if you don’t feel ready. No one ever does. 

Kiss My Astro: Your December Horoscopes

The best piece of wisdom to remember from 2018? There are no guarantees in love.

This year brought us deep into the places in our hearts, minds, and bodies that need to get shaken up and refreshed. For some of us, that means major changes in what seemed like stable relationships — for others, it means powerful new connections that spring up out of nowhere. Maybe you’ve experienced both? In this last month of a year that’s been astrologically focused on transforming our relationships, you get cosmic permission to full release the pain of the past year and start building toward future pleasures. Nothing new can grow without something ending first. With Venus in Scorpio, still, just be aware relationships can take a sudden turn toward deeper issues without much warning. Draw on that optimistic energy of Jupiter in Sagittarius to get you through with your sense of humor intact.

If you’re in need of extra insights or holiday gifts for the astrology fans on your list, hit me up for readings and astrology presents! 

Aries

This year has been extra in so many ways, but you’ve really been feeling it at the deepest levels. The good news is 2019 won’t be nearly as grueling for your heart and body. The bad news is you’ve still get December to deal with. This month, recognize that you know how to survive a lot. You know how to get your needs met, however you can. What do you want, now, to thrive in the new year? You’re moving from a year of limping and slow recovery to a year where you’ll be soaring like a goddamn bird. Don’t expect too much progress all at once, but know you’re on your way out of whatever mess you feel stuck in.

Taurus

This year has introduced you to a theme that will be much more present for you in the coming years: You are learning to appreciate the pleasures of unpredictability. You’ve been letting go of old stories about what partnership means, particularly fixation on a kind of stability that can be stifling and smothering for your own spirit. You’re learning now how to ask for (and keep getting) what you need as life continues to churn and twist and leave us in unexpected situations. Part of how you’re coming back to life right now is through your erotic imagination. Let new desires help you become your next best self.

Gemini

This is a beautiful month for releasing stress from your body, especially stress about your body. Learn to trust your internal sense of joy more than you trust a mirror. The kind of love that is looking for you this month knows that our bodies are the expression of the energy that moves them. What is that energy like for you right now? Are you letting yourself choose the people that light you up when you’re with them? Anyone you feel ugly, small, or invisible with when you’re with them is no longer someone you need to make time for.

Cancer

Let’s talk about desire, darling. You’re someone who can feel it intensely, and this year has been really running you through the gauntlet. Whether you’ve gotten those desires satisfied or remain in a state of frustrated longing, desire itself can be a distraction that prevents you from noticing everything else in your life. Maybe there’s a lot you don’t want to notice? Nevertheless, something is calling you to tend a little more to your core wellbeing. Turn your energy inward, start getting curious about what (else) you need. Desire will still be there when you’re done — and you’ll be much better equipped to handle both satisfaction and disappointment.

Leo

The holidays are generally stressful, but there’s something about family that’s particularly tender for you this year. If you have the energy to explore that, this could be a time for some deep healing. Luckily, you’ve also got a little extra sparkle right now and you’ll find plenty of opportunities for sharing those sparks. Risk being a little more vulnerable and you’ll find it easier to share both grief and celebration. 2019 will be a year of reconnecting with joy — you can get an early start on that right now.

Virgo

As you move toward a year in which your sacred mission is to call in the kind of loving that will make your world feel right, your first assignment is to silence your internal chatter — particularly the part of you that likes to game out what you should say to the difficult people you love, and what they might say back to you, and what you can say next to help explain or solve the problem, etc., as you lay awake at night instead of drifting into mindless oblivion. The love you need right now is the kind that will knock you out and let you rest. What can you do to release your need to explain, justify, persuade, or negotiate with anyone? Who can you reach out to for some soporific tenderness?

Libra

Honey, don’t get too hung up on any one man right now. Even if it’s your life partner, or your kid, or the love of your life that you’re just now getting to notice you. It’s really not about them right now, it’s about all the friends that keep you sane when that man isn’t around or hasn’t done right by you. This month is kindly reminding you that there is a lot of love in your life, and that you can start to hold it in different ways when you start with self-love. Adore yourself first; everyone else can wait in line.

Scorpio

Oh, the things you’ve learned about love this year. It could lead you to cynicism, but you don’t have to get stuck there. Your relationships may have been tough this year, but your response gets to be magical. You get to be the phoenix rising from the flames of 2018. And as you’re reborn into 2019, it’s time welcome yourself back to life with decadent pleasures. Let yourself remember why it’s good to be in a body.

Sagittarius

You are so damn hot right now, no matter what you look like. Maybe you’re in ratty sweatpants and feeling bloated, maybe there’s spinach in your teeth — honestly, it doesn’t matter. You’re radiating a renewed sense of purpose and direction. You’re coming into your own. Do you feel it? Can you trust it? Is it a little scary to imagine growing into a more expansive version of yourself? Remember that you won’t be on this journey alone. You get to be your own hero this year, and there’s something magnetic about that kind of energy.

Capricorn

Dearest stoic Capricorn, repeat after me: Isolation isn’t the answer right now. We all know how tough and capable you are, but that’s not the issue. Everybody needs to know they’re not alone while facing anything they can’t control. What kind of support do you actually want? Let your imagination run wild. Notice where you start to shut down and tell yourself “It’s fine, I can handle this alone.” I’m sure you can. But what if you didn’t have to? Look a little more closely at who’s offering you some sweetness right now, and take a chance by accepting.

Aquarius

Sometimes it’s hard not to get caught between your idealism and your realism: hoping but not wanting to hope, dreaming but not believing in your dreams. This is a month for dreaming big. Believe in the possibilities you’ve talked yourself out of. Start looking for the collaborators you need to make things happen. Remember that you’re part of larger communities, and your voice is needed. What happens when you remember all the ways you’re already connected?

Pisces

Let’s talk about what it means to be sensitive. Toxic rules about masculinity teach us what men can and can’t feel, what they’re allowed to express and what they’re encouraged to repress. You’re one of the special ones who feels more than others usually do — like being an artist who sees a range of subtle differences in color. This sensitivity is a kind of intelligence, and this month asks you to claim it, learn more about it, and learn how to use it. Don’t let anyone shame you out of claiming what’s yours, sweetie. The ones who are worth your time will be grateful to have some of those healing powers directed their way.

Kiss My Astro: Your October Horoscope

October is the time to collectively slow our rolls. Venus in retrograde this month (from October 5th – November 16th) means relationships are up for review. Missing an ex-lover? It could be the right time to reconnect. Still mad at an ex-friend? Now might be the time for some closure. Unsure where you’re headed in your current relationship? Reassessing what you want and what’s changed since last year can be hella fruitful right now. It’s less advisable to make major relationship decisions (moving in together, their name tattooed on your knuckles, etc.) during this time. Venus in Scorpio can be a little extra brutal, so make sure you fight cleanly if you have grievances to air, and expect some fierce sparks if you reconnect with someone you’ve been wanting back in your life.

Aries

It’s almost a cliché that you can feel trapped in committed relationships, but it’s not that you don’t want love—you just can’t be happy in any relationship that’s gotten stale and boring. Use Venus retrograde as a time to reclaim your own desires and sense of adventure—ideally without breaking any hearts. It doesn’t have to be either/or; you’re looking for the kind of love that will stand by you as you change and learn and grow.

Taurus

Some call it stubbornness, some call it pride, those who love you most call it strength and perseverance—whatever you want to call it, you have the ability to keep going on the path you’ve chosen for a long, long time. When months like this come along, where there’s the pressure to reassess your decisions, it can threaten your entire sense of self. Never fear; what you’re learning right now is worth knowing, and you can act on it as slowly as you need to.

Gemini

Oh darling, you’ve got so much sparkle to bring to the party but this month strands you at home, cleaning up while everyone else hits the clubs. It’s not the worst fate, though. You may even be grateful for some time to tend to yourself, tend to your own life, and get your affairs in order. Your future is still full of bright possibilities; you just need to spend some time sorting through the messes of reality first. Once you have, you’ll be making better choices than you ever have about who’s worth your time.

Cancer

You can get it right now, and the question is only—should you? You’re giving off luscious and sultry vibes, but what you want from the world is both excitement and security at the same time. Practice asking for exactly what you want, even if it seems petulant or contradictory. Practice listening to exactly what someone has to offer, especially if they use the phrases, “you deserve better” (you do) or “I’m not sure what I want” (you don’t have to solve that for them). Choose wisely. Take your time. Bestow your graces only when you feel that enthusiastic “YES” and not a tepid “maybe.”

Leo

Sometimes we need to sit out an inning, or even a whole game. There’s no shame in letting an injury heal, and this is a month when you have a beautiful opportunity to heal something that’s hurt you for a long time. Whether it’s from your family, your adolescence, an old relationship, or just the current state of the world, your mission right now is to let that pain move through you and let it go. I know it’s not the sexiest assignment, but believe me that when you learn this skill you’re also learning how to connect to a lover from a place of courageous, honest intimacy that is hotter than any bravado.

Virgo

We’re all shaped by our environments, and you may find yourself looking around right now and wondering: Who the hell chose those curtains? Who chose this music? Who are all these people, anyway? You may get nostalgic for days of yore when your friends seemed cooler, your haircut hipper, your taste in books more cutting edge—but really, what’s happening is you’re noticing how you’ve been growing away from the past. The answer isn’t to return to a past version of your life, it’s to think more clearly about the present moment. What can you change in your environment now to help you feel more aligned with who you’re trying to become? Who do you know who can help you hold this vision?

Libra

This is your time to shine, but even as you’ve got that extra sparkle in your eye you’re also navigating a tricky time. You want to go full steam ahead, but you may get pulled up short by fears about trust. If you can face these anxieties and work through them, this month will help you grow by leaps and bounds. Remember that you’re stronger than you think, and that you are loved far more than you realize. Focus on what you have when you’re afraid of what you might be missing.

Scorpio

You are probably well aware of the times you’ve lost your power to a relationship—if you become obsessed with pleasing someone, or take on their opinions as your own. Even anger or jealousy are ways of giving away your power, as you get fixated on making someone else as unhappy as you are—or at least want them to understand you and apologize. Both these states leave you unable to connect with what is most miraculous and beautiful in your own life. Getting stuck in them is tragic for you, most of all. This month offers you the chance to get majorly unstuck from anything you’ve been holding onto as a hope or a grudge. Reclaim your right to be happy, to be self-directed, and to live the life of your dreams.

Sagittarius

This month is all about the difference between fantasy and reality. Sometimes our fantasies help us understand what’s missing in our real lives that we need to go find; sometimes they just help us handle the constant dissatisfaction of being an imperfect human and dating other imperfect humans. Fantasies will give you important data right now, so let your mind drift when you can. What are you longing for? What does that tell you about what you don’t have? Are your fantasies blocking you from seeing what you do have? Find a way to enjoy the life you’re in while you figure out where you’d like to be next.

Capricorn

If you’ve lost your inspiration in life, this month is bending over backwards to help you retrace your steps and go find it again. When did you last feel optimistic? Expansive? Excited about being part of something much larger than yourself? Connected to someone who made you feel like you wanted to be a better person for them? Those connections are still there, if you take the time to look for them.

Aquarius

You’re on a roll right now, and while you’re busy crushing it the last thing you want is to stop and reassess your purpose in life and what it’s all for. Nevertheless. Something’s calling to you from the past right now and asking exactly that question. Notice what relationships help you pause and reflect on this situation, and which ones demand that you merely keep being impressive. Don’t waste your time on the ones that can’t give you some room to reflect and experiment. What you come up with afterwards will be worth it.

Pisces

It’s time to get centered, get grounded, and get serious about something really big that you want to do. Those first two steps are vitally important, though. Without them, you’re liable to just keep dreaming about it. This might mean needing a little more time alone than usual—at the very least, protect yourself from too much time with people who need you to listen to them but never listen, who want you to be like them, who don’t know what it means to stop and pay attention to your non-verbal cues. They may be charming, sexy, persuasive, exciting people—but they’re not doing you any favors right now. Make room for the ones who can support your vision, and begin by believing in yourself.

Kiss My Astro: Your September Horoscopes

September is here, and it’s time to heave a sigh of relief that the eclipses and retrogrades of August are over, get cozy, and start ironing out all those snags in your love life that crept up over the summer. We’re moving from a few months of high highs and low lows to a time of deepening, softening, and clarifying. Stay patient with what’s still up in the air, but use this time to relax into what will help your life feel more clear, less cluttered, and more aligned with your real needs.

Find me for readings this month if you want some personalized insights, and as always use these for what they can give you, and discard anything you don’t need. Enjoy the sweetness and slowness of this month!

Aries

You’re done with the heartbreak, even if it isn’t done with you. You’ve been bent out of shape too long already, and it’s time to spring back. Don’t just expect to return to your earlier shape, though—you’ve been changed by this journey and it will show. Let yourself transform. Trust that you’ve learned enough from the harder parts to make better choices moving forward. Let that wiser self be more visible.

Taurus

This is your time to celebrate and revel in the sheer hedonism of living. Surround yourself in beauty as much as you can (flowers, fabrics, humans, etc.) and trust that beauty isn’t something scarce or easy to lose as we all age—rather, spend this time appreciating the distinct beauties of the unexpected, the well-loved, the time-worn, the familiar, the intimate. No matter what else is going on right now, take some time for this practice of gratitude. It will open up a gate to all kinds of other joys.

Gemini

You are stepping into your full power and glorious beauty this month, and it’s your responsibility to wield these powers for good! Above all, this means staying true to what helps you feel aligned with what is best in you. What would it be like to lead with your absolute confidence in what is miraculous about you? So stop stressing about how you might be seen or ignored, appreciated or misunderstood, and start cherishing this heart and body and mind you get to share with the world.

Cancer

What would it be like to set aside whatever the current crisis is and let your muscles unclench a little this month? Remember to welcome the kinds of changes that can totally reorient you. Your life is full of positive changes this month, but even good change can signal stress response if you’re moving too fast. Let yourself slow down and really savor what’s happening. Let yourself deeply release any anxieties or control patterns that come up when you get freaked out about change. This is a month for pleasure and and playfulness.

Leo

Even a force as fabulous as you are in the world could use a little downtime, a little behind-the-scenes sewing on of lost sequins and reapplying of makeup. You’ve been really shining brightly for some time now, and this month reminds you that you won’t be forgotten about if you take a step back for awhile. Let yourself relax into the relationships that don’t ask you to prove yourself, to turn on the charm, to put on a show. If you need a little TLC right now, it’s okay to ask for it. Find that someone who can love you even when you’re not trying to make a good impression.

Virgo

You can see through everyone’s nonsense right now, and you don’t have the patience to pretend you don’t. This is not the time for you to roll your eyes and smile and nod—there’s something you’ve got to add to the conversation. You’re in the spotlight this month, and the way you see things matters more than you might think. More than just calling out jerks or shutting up bores, this month calls on you to redirect the conversation to what you find fascinating—you’ll have a willing audience.

Libra

If you’re looking for stability, you’ll be a little happier this month than you have been for the last few. Even so, the sand is still shifting under your feet. Don’t go planning the rest of your life with anyone you’ve met fairly recently (in the last year, let’s say). You’ve still got some reckoning to do with the past—exes or family members with unresolved issues. Doing that will help you really lay the groundwork for the kind of security you’re looking for in the future.

Scorpio

How sweet is this month for you? Please don’t waste it hiding away or judging everyone over the edge of your drink. This month is practically begging you to show the world some of that sparkle that you keep hidden most of the time. Choose the right people to connect with, though—you don’t want to waste this opportunity on someone who doesn’t deserve to see what’s most true and beautiful about you. You know yourself better than you ever have—find someone who’s able to really know you, too.

Sagittarius

Expect a few pleasant surprises this month. Your crush may be requited, or someone absolutely new may pop up on your radar. Keep your eyes open for opportunities, and keep your cynicism firmly under control. There is more available for you than you currently realize. Trust in the future.

Capricorn

Loneliness doesn’t look good on you right now, so get off that high horse you ride when you think you’ve got to go it alone. You are connected to others, and not just in the sense that you have to rescue them from their messes. If no one else is taking on the responsibilities you do, that means it’s time to drop what you’re holding and see who picks it up. You get to be done with any dynamic that’s merely reinforcing the story that you are alone. Hold out for a real partner who can meet you at your level, as a friend or a lover. 

Aquarius

You’re almost out of the woods, but there’s still some recovery you’ve got to do from recent emotional difficulties. This is a perfect time to seek out a little more time for inner reflection and planning the way forward. You’re learning a lot right now and you’ll want the time and space to concentrate. Only seek out the kinds of connections that won’t disrupt your internal processes right now.

Pisces

Seeing the bigger picture can be hard, especially because of how deeply you encounter each person you care about. You can get lost in one relationship, in how much you take on of another person’s joys and fears. This month asks you to pull back and see how all your relationships fit together, how they affect each other, how you are connected to larger networks. When you do this, you may find yourself ready to make really different decisions about love.

Kiss My Astro: Your August Horoscope

This August is serving us YAFGO* in abundance. Mars, planet of “let me get some of that right now” is moving retrograde till the end of the month. Mars retrograde is a time when everyone’s drive (sex drive, drive to get out of bed in the morning, etc.) has been slowed way down—or if you try to plunge ahead into something new, there may be all kinds of unforeseen obstacles. There’s also a good chance past lovers and friends you’ve fallen out with will be popping up again to see if there’s sparks to be kindled or amends to be made. There’s also another eclipse on the 11th, offering a chance to see your life through new eyes, and finally a lovely aspect between Jupiter (planet of abundance, joy, and excess) and Neptune (planet of false eyelashes, sequins, and romantic quests). Let that sweet and sparkly energy give you the patience to handle whatever frustrations arise. Good luck out there!
 
*Yet Another F’ing Growth Opportunity
Aries
The slow energy of this month will be especially hard for you, as there’s something you really want right now that you’re having a hard time either getting or totally walking away from. What are your other options? Take a little extra time to think about what’s most important to you in this scenario, and other ways you could get your needs met. Above all, don’t give in to impatience or competitive behavior—you don’t need to prove yourself or put anyone else down to get the kind of attention that’s worth having.
 
Taurus
Slow is beautiful for you, and the energy of this month is perfectly paced for the last month of summer when you want to savor all the sweetness that’s still lingering in the air. This is a gorgeous time to reinvest in all the connections that help you feel seen, understood, and appreciated. You’re in a new phase of maturity that’s making you think about partnership differently, and you may discover that you’re ready for something you didn’t think you would be so soon. Ask for what you need, and trust that good things are on the way.
 
Gemini
This month brings you an eagle-eye perspective on all the twisty and knotted paths you’ve been taking in your relationships. Miscommunications, crossed signals, and cycles of heartbreak all become clear from this distance. This is a beautiful vantage point from which to catch your breath and plot your course forward. Remember that where you are now felt out of reach a year ago—imagine where you can be a year from now if you keep a clear view of your goals.
 
Cancer
Repeat after me: “Honey, that’s your problem, not mine.” You’ve got 99 problems right now, but really 98 of those aren’t yours and you have permission from the stars to give them back to their rightful owners. This is a month for you to get some well-deserved R & R. If you’re inviting anyone back to the sanctuary of your home, make sure they leave the drama at the door.
 
Leo
What a wild year it’s been! Since last August, you’ve lived a few lifetimes. This month brings the second-to-last eclipse in your sign (the last will be in January), so you’re nearing the end of a major cycle of transformation. What have you outgrown? Where have you had to cut ties? What’s come into your life that you never expected? Take some time to marvel at what you’ve been through, and have faith that the next six months will help you get where you’re trying to go.
 
Virgo
Last month was a non-stop carnival of adventure; this month will slow your merry-go-round down. The good news is you’ll appreciate the rest, the bad news is there’s nothing in particular to work on or solve right now. Self-improvement or making lists of ideal traits in your ideal partner are fine activities, but it’s too early to start something new and you’ve still got to catch your breath from the last few months. Let things be slow, unsettled, and easy right now. Let yourself be curious about what comes next without giving in to impatience or anxiety. You get to be specific about what you want; it’s fine to wait for what feels right.
 
Libra
Dolce far niente—how sweet it is to do nothing! This month asks you to ditch the stress and savor the sweetness, wherever and whenever you can. With Venus moving into your sign on the 6th, this is a time to bring a little more light, joy, and even decadence into your daily life. Soothe the parts of your heart that feel frazzled or unloved, and find those connections that can help you stabilize into this slower, sweeter pace of life.
 
Scorpio
How close to the surface is your inner diva? This is your month there’s a part of you that’s ready to strut, but the rest of you is suspicious of that part. Scorpio energy is always tracking what could go wrong, and making yourself publicly vulnerable isn’t something you do carelessly. Luckily, this month the goddesses of glamour are on your side—trust that if you step into the spotlight, you’ll get the applause you deserve.
 
Sagittarius
There’s something changing for you right now, but you won’t see the full effects just yet. Meanwhile, beware of the grass-is-always-gayer somewhere else attitude that can keep you from noticing what’s amazing right where you are. Risk opening up to what’s right in front of you, even if it doesn’t match your fantasies of the ideal situation (or ideal partner, or ideal lover). This month rewards paying attention to what is working, what you do have, what you shouldn’t take for granted—and helps you dream into a future that can build on what you have instead of abandoning it.
 
Capricorn
As retrograde Mars moves into your sign this month you may feel like a revving engine. All the energy you’re building up is best released after the 27th, but meanwhile it’s a great time to patiently examine what you’re really after when you’re feeling riled up. Get in touch with your deepest desires and figure out how to express them in ways that are still caring and considerate of others. It’s a balancing act, but you’ve got the skills and the wisdom to pull it off.
 
Aquarius
This month brings the end of a year-long cycle of change and growth—particularly around your relationships. You’ve learned a lot about what kinds of commitment you want—and how free you need to feel in those commitments.Take some time to marvel at how much you have learned, and if there are any lingering things to resolve with an ex, or with any relationships that have changed since last August, take this time to do so cleanly so you can fully move forward.
 
Pisces
This month is like a cosmic reset button for you, giving you a great chance to start new habits. Something that was previously hard for you in relationships is starting to feel effortless—that may be holding your own instead of giving in, taking space when you need it, or letting go of anxieties that aren’t serving you. All you need to do right now is practice these newfound skills and notice how good it feels to be able to connect to someone without losing yourself. And it’s okay if you slip up sometimes, you’ll be able to get back to center if you try!

Kiss My Astro: Your July Horoscope

With Mars in retrograde this month (and all summer!), expect more thwarted desires than easy connections. Mars, planet of lust and anger and self-assertion, helps us get what we want. When planets move retrograde, it’s like losing our keys and needing to retrace our steps to find them. Depending on the choices you’ve been making, that could bring you back in touch with a long-lost love or an abrasive one-night-stand you’d hoped to never see again. A few eclipses this month—a solar eclipse in Cancer on the 12th, and a lunar eclipse in Aquarius on the 27th—keep things interesting. Whatever you start this month, expect it to surprise you! Keep your cool and keep your eyes open, as there’s a lot going on under the surface that won’t be clear yet. 

Aries

What have you done in order to not be lonely? What do you want to do next time that feeling comes on so strong you’d do anything to drive it away? I’d suggest you start by releasing any shame you feel about being, as Morrissey sang, a human who needs to be loved, just like everybody else does. The Cancer eclipse on the 12th is an especially good time to take a long look in the mirror and welcome all the hurt and lonely parts of yourself with open arms. Welcome to being human. Welcome to loving yourself enough to let someone else really know you. 

Taurus

Though you tend to move slowly, this is a month when you could be chatting up a storm. Your interest is piqued by more people than you’d expect—and you may be more interested in verbalizing things you usually leave unsaid. Stay open to surprises, and don’t take anything too seriously just yet. And if you’re getting too caught up in making a good first impression, remember that you don’t need to impress everyone. Trust that the ones that matter will see be anxious to make a good impression on *you.*  

Gemini

All kinds of new things begin for you next month—what are you doing right now to help them grow? This is a time to be slow, thoughtful, and intentional about who you want to give your time to. Try not to be all things to all people right now, or keep too many backup plans in play at once—it’ll be more relaxing to focus. Don’t waste your time second guessing or overplanning things—trust that if you act in good faith you’ll be able to spot someone who isn’t on the level. Meanwhile, enjoy some simple pleasure this month. They should be ample! 

Cancer

With the eclipse in your sign this month, you’re getting a taste of what 2019 will feel like for you. Expect July to rock your world in a few different ways! You’re discovering something dramatically new about yourself, and everything else will have to change accordingly. Don’t be impatient to know what’s coming next, though—you’re still feeling your way into it. Especially on the 12th, take some time to envision where you’d like to be in six months. Dream it now so you can be it later.  

Leo

You can never get enough of what you don’t really need, and honey, you’ve been getting so much of that lately you’re starving for what you do need. This month helps you get unstuck. Delete those old text messages. Throw away your ex’s shirt. Forget about whatever social media is telling you is important right now. You know what’s sacred in your life. Who shares your dreams and visions? Who helps you feel like anything is possible? Be a little choosier about who you grace with your presence this month, and remember that if it’s not making you sing Allelujah it’s not worth it.  

Virgo

July promises to be a full-throttle rodeo of possibilities, and luckily for you, it’s not your first rodeo. You’ll want to be where the action is, even if you’re not sure you want to be *doing* whatever the action is. Workaholism is your worst enemy right now, so go ahead and schedule a few sick days into your summer calendar so you’ll have to take some time off.  Get out there and get into something! Even if you wallflower your way through every party of the summer—you’ll be happier amongst your people than at home wondering if you still have any friends. It’s time to make some new friends. 

Libra

Do you know what an incredible catch you are? Does some part of you doubt it? This is the time to confront those fears, and not by obsessing over what you can improve about yourself. There’s a big difference between seeing your limitations clearly and comparing yourself to people who seem to have what you don’t. Take your strengths seriously, and use the eclipse energy on the 27th to let go of all your doubts about what you deserve. 

Scorpio

There have been so many endings in your life recently, but this is a month of new beginnings. On a certain level, you’re more comfortable with endings—when things fall apart you can stop worrying about things falling apart! Beginnings can be a lot trickier. How much do you risk? How much do you let yourself want? Get adventurous on the 12th, and let the second eclipse on the 27th help you release whatever’s holding you back from moving forward.  

Sagittarius

Everyone reads their horoscopes hoping the stars will be like “Gurl, you’re on fire and nothing can stop you right now. Everybody wants you and that’s a fact.” This month is the closest you’re going to get to that kind of free pass, so use it well. Think of your sexual nature as a superpower that you have to use for the good of the ordinary citizens all around you. Be responsible, play safely, and for extra credit consider what sexuality can help heal (in you or your partners) that’s been broken or neglected for too long. 

Capricorn

How much pressure are you putting on yourself in your relationships? How much do you expect from yourself in general? Too often, you might be taking on more responsibility for the success of failure of a relationship—whether it’s a first date or marriage. It might even be satisfying, being the one in control and with a clear sense of what needs to happen. But this month, you get a chance to go a little deeper. Especially on the 12th, figure out how to be a little more vulnerable—just enough to feel more seen, recognized, and cherished. You deserve it. 

Aquarius

I know you hate a mess, but this month will be a little messy. You like to think your way out of problems, but people never act as rationally as you hope they will. Try to roll with it. You’ll need a little extra patience, but you’ll also get more opportunities to really connect. Whatever you do, don’t volunteer to clean up other people’s messes. Let them learn from their mistakes, and see what you can learn when you trust people to figure things out on their own. 

Pisces

Don’t look away from what’s happening right now—even if it’s hard to face. Especially if it’s hard to face! If you’re going through heartbreak or betrayal or just an existential crisis about who are you and what is love, remember that the only way out is through. There’s something you need to learn right now and distracting yourself will just keep you in the same old rut. Luckily for you, you don’t have to do this alone. Flirtation, romance, and parties can help you heal, as long as you don’t lean too much on them as an escape. 

Kiss My Astro: Your May Horoscope

Life gets a little more interesting this month as Uranus, planet of revolution and taking bold risks, moves into Taurus, sign of peaceful sensuality and comfort food. Imagine Che Guevara in a spa. Uranus is also the planet of queerness, and of looking at the structures of our lives differentlyof daring to live outside of social conventions. As Uranus moves into Taurus, expect some revolutions in how you get your core physical needs met, and even some exciting discoveries about pleasure and connection. Meanwhile, stay patient when you’re feeling restlessthis isn’t the easiest combination of energies, but it’s here for about seven years. You’ll have plenty of time to follow up on the insights and intuition you’re picking up on now! Consider this month as your first taste. Be curious, and have fun with it!

Aries

Don’t worry, dearest Aries, your life won’t end if you take some time for yourself. FOMO may have you filling every available moment with other peoplewhether that’s parties, friend dates, or even just scrolling through social media and dating appsbut something’s changing in your needs this month. It’s okay to pull back and look within a little more. This doesn’t mean you have to be a monkit means when you really assess your options and choose wisely, who ends up choosing you is a much better fit. Try it out!

Taurus

This is a wild time for youcan you trust that will be a good thing? You tend to be suspicious of anything new, even if it’s better than what it’s replacing (“But I *like* lying in bed alone fantasizing about how much better my life could be!”). This month brings you much perspective and a huge kick of energy to stop putting up with anything that’s gotten stale and tired. You’re here for more exciting times. You’ve just got to trust that you can change, your relationships can change, and you’re not doomed to play out the same old patterns forever. Do you believe this yet?

Gemini

This month brings you the newest new, the shiniest shiny, and a non-stop parade of possibility. Pros: This is what you basically want life to look like all the time. Cons: You’ll have to say no to some things in order to really experience the rest. It could be time for some hard decisions. Let go with gratitude of anything that’s blocking you from moving forward right now, and remember that your inner compass is whatever makes you light up with a sense of joy and elationnot what other people think you should do. Enjoy the ride, darlin!

Cancer

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being sensitive and caring, even if you’ve been taught to hide that side of you your whole lifeor if partners have taken advantage of your tenderness and willingness to give. Vulnerability is a sign of strength: embroider that affirmation on your toughest jacket before you go out. And this month, you’re getting a chance to really shine as someone who has skills and talents. Claim them, flaunt them, and go get what’s yours.

Leo

You are not the sum total of everything impressive you’ve ever done. You are not less worthy on days when you feel less than gorgeous. This month, questions of status are coming up for you in a real and urgent way and it’s your job to silence those voices that tell you you’re not enough, that you don’t deserve love until you’ve earned it. Seek out the company of people who know you well and can reflect you clearly, cause your mirror might be a little distorted right now. Trust the good things people tell you, and resist the urge to add “but they don’t really know…” The more you can embrace your full selffunny, brave, awkward, earnest, lonely, passionatethe better you’ll be able to connect with people who love all that.

Virgo

Watch out for thinking you already know where you’re headedor where you want to end up. This month reminds you that surprises can be exciting, and disruptions can teach you more about what the world has to offer. So don’t go into every new encounter with a checklist, or begin your dates sizing up how well this person conforms to your ideal. Let yourself be blown off course. Let people open you up new ideas. There will be plenty of opportunities for adventure and romance under this influence, but you’ll need to let yourself go there. Your views on partnership are changing this monthwhat ideas have you been holding onto that you don’t need anymore?

Libra

Get ready for the sexiest summer ever, Libra. Or at least, get ready to explore everything about sex that you wanted to know but were afraid to try. We’re not just talking new positions or accessories, but the deeper feelings that get stirred up when you get it on: What does desire open up in you emotionally? How can sex help you heal? What does it mean to you to be vulnerable, or to refuse to be vulnerable, with a lover? Remember, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to and you can explore at your own pace. But dip a toe in the water for now, and see what you can learn.

Scorpio

Guess what, Scorpio? All those hard times you’ve had in the past with lovers who weren’t honest or healthythis is the month you get to start making different choices. You can find what you want. You can have fulfilling love. You don’t need to put up with any kind of bad behavior or feel like for whatever reason (“I’m not tall enough to be picky…”) you won’t find exactly what you need. This month, start saying no to everything you really don’t need anymore. You’ll be surprised by what opportunities start opening up that you’ll be ready to say yes to!

Sagittarius

Maybe you look like a goddamn Greek god, maybe you’ve got the kind of body that you’ve struggled to accept and love because our culture doesn’t. Wherever you fall on the spectrum of being widely desired or an acquired taste, you’ve probably absorbed some gnarly messages about your worth as a human being vis-à-vis your flesh suit. Now is a beautiful time to uproot some of those untruths and start planting the seeds of a lifelong love affair with your unique, amazing, once-in-a-lifetime body. Yes, you can invite a friend or two to worship at the temple that is you, but only if they’re truly devoted.

Capricorn

Every now and then you get to step down from those mountain tops you so effortlessly climb and splash in a few mud puddles. This is one of those timesthe more you can let go of responsibility and play right now, the better. This is a particularly good month for striking up a new romance because that sparkle in your eyes is extra sparklybut don’t expect any new connection to progress in measured steps toward lifelong partnership. Now is a time to experiment, to flirt, to take some chances. Don’t overdetermine where they’ll lead or you’ll kill to thrill of it. Let it be a meandering journey, and enjoy the view.

Aquarius

Take a second look at the people you know bestsomething about them will surprise you this month. Really, it’s your perspective that’s changing. You’re starting to see all sorts of things you’ve overlooked, and your relationships will also be changingthe strong ones will only get stronger through these fresh insights, but you could also dig up some secrets that could help you clarify what’s going wrong in less healthy connections. Trust your own truth right now, and don’t worry about making some waves in the way you express it.

Pisces

You may be craving a vacation right now, but you won’t have to go very farsomething new and unusual is beckoning to you quite close to home. Expect your daily life to get a little stranger this month, in the best of ways. Now’s a good time to change up tired old routines and welcome some daring adventures in your everyday slogsubway flirtations, workplace intrigues, and the like. Just make sure you’re ready for your world to really change.

Kiss My Astro: Your April Horoscope

April comes on loud and fast, like a happy hardcore DJ in a neon bunny costumebut the real lusciousness of this month is best savored slowly. Three retrograde planets this month play havoc with our momentum if we try to do too much too quickly. To keep the spark alive or to start a new romance, remember the cardinal rules for this time: 1) Slow dance whenever you can. Grinding is permitted. It’s all about building up that anticipation. 2) Have faith that something big can shift for you this month. Changes are going on behind the scenes. They may not be obvious yet. Just believe you deserve the kind of love you want, and that it starts with believing that’s possible. It is. And you’ll get there, step by step. You can find me for readings and romance advice this month at [flaxandgold.com](flaxandgold.com/readings). Good luck out there, y’all!

Aries

You’ve got that beautiful problem to havetoo many choices. Maybe you’re milkshake has brought all the boys to the yard, maybe you’re trying to choose the best path forward, but one thing you aren’t lacking right now is opportunities. How do you move forward, though? Slowly, and with a lot of breaks to focus on yourself and come back to center. Anything that falls away as you take your time wasn’t something you needed. Meanwhile, time alone will help you understand what you really do want. Let go of old identities, old ideas about relationships. This month can bring you a whole new worldjust make sure you’re moving toward the one you want.

Taurus

This month, you get to let go of anything you learned about love that doesn’t feel true for you anymore. You don’t have to settle, you don’t have to worry about missing out, you don’t have to worry that you aren’t hot enough. Instead, this month is all about choosing and calling in what you really need. Don’t let attachment to the past blind you from what’s right in front of you. Don’t let insecurity mess with your perspective on yourselfexactly are you are right now, you are a total catch. Choose the people who bring out the best in you, and let yourself be chosen.

Gemini

When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself what’s beautiful about your body. When you’re with a loversomeone brand new or long establishedtell him exactly what your body wants. It will keep shifting over time, from moment to moment and from year to year. Sense it, name it, and feel how sweet it is to get exactly what you want. This month is all about explicit communication, especially around pleasure and desire. It may feel silly at first, but saying something out loud can be powerfuleven if it’s something obvious, and especially if it’s something you’ve been afraid to say.

Cancer

Don’t make it harder than it needs to be right now. You can be angry, scared, disappointed, tirednone of this is a crisis! Blow off steam when you need to, ideally without aiming it too pointedly at anyone, and then see if you can make light of it. Be generousas long as you’re not putting up with real disrespect. And if you’re making a date with someone new, let all the awkwardness of it be a joke you get to share. Keep choosing joy, whenever you cannot by stifling your harder feelings, but by letting them boil up and then fade away. It might be easier than you realized.

Leo

You can shine at anything you really love doing. When you put in the effort, when it’s a joy instead of a chore, you’re able to channel pure magic. But when you’re facing obstaclesscarcity, heartbreak, rejection, insecurity, or whatever’s coming up for you right nowit takes a lot of faith to believe that you’ll come out on top again. Here’s the trick: start doing anything you love, as often as you can. Dance, write, cook pasta, flirt with strangers. Whatever helps you feel alive. This month will help you get your groove back, but you’ve got to take the first step. When you remember how exciting it is to be you, they’ll see how exciting it is to be with you.

Virgo

No one puts Virgo in a corner. At least, not this month. Most of the time, you may prefer watching from the corner. But right now you’re ready to take center stage, strut the catwalk, and crush the stifling stereotype that being interested in the wellbeing of others means you never get to be selfish. Sure, you like to feel needed. But this month you also need to feel adored. Worshipped. I’m talking jaws dropping when you walk in a room. Maybe that feels hard to engineer, but your job this month is to believe that you’re worth that response. The rest will follow.

Libra

We spend our adult lives trying to pretend we don’t still need the things we needed as kidscomfort, praise, attention, cuddlingand then feeling lonely in relationships where we don’t get enough of those things. Whether you had a full and happy childhood or you never got enough of certain kinds of live, this is a month when you get to receive all those sweet kinds of affection that will help you feel deeply cared for. There’s only one catch: You have to know what to ask for, and you have to ask for it. Take your time figuring each of those out if they feel daunting.

Scorpio

Repeat after me: It doesn’t gotta be this way. No more betrayal, no more heartbreak, no more isolation, no more suffering because you took a chance once and opened up to someone and lord knows you’ll never do that again. Whatever old wounds you’re still licking, now’s the time to slap a bandaid on them and go work what you’ve got despite them. You get to choose happiness, even if you have to swim through an ocean of tears to get there. Let the past pass and steer toward the future.

Sagittarius

You don’t need to know where you’re going yet. You don’t need to know the rest of your life this month, or this week, or this day. You’re still figuring out what you really want, and that’s changed in the last few years. Don’t get too depressed about what you don’t have yetthere’s a lot of drama out there you don’t need in your life. It’s okay to wait for the right timing, the right man, and your own inner sense of what feels right. You’ll feel it when it happens. Meanwhile, enjoy the process of discovery.

Capricorn

Remember when you hoped for more from people? Remember believing the best about anyone you met? Maybe you were never such a wide-eyed idealist, but this is a month when it will feel easier to give people the benefit of the doubt. If you’ve got any hatchets you’re ready to bury, now’s the time to do it in style. New romance can also bloom under this optimistic frame of mindlet yourself trust that what you really want is possible.

Aquarius

Which feels scarier to youa first date with someone brand new, or having a bad day around someone you’re already dating? Is it easier to make a good first impression than to let someone see you at your worst? This month helps you release that strain of always holding yourself back. You don’t have to be perfect, or stoic, or perfectly stoic to impress anyone. Relax into the knowledge that you can show your feelings and your flaws (which aren’t the same thing!), and we’ll still be impressed.

Pisces

For all the enchantment you can bring to romance, you’re also in danger of getting too swept awayat some point the dreamboat you’ve been pining for turns out to be just a regular human whose flaws are all the worse for you having seen them and chosen to ignore them for so long. This month, you get a chance to change that pattern! You’re learning what signs to look for when it’s time to pull back, slow down, or move on. Keep your eyes on the prize, and don’t fall too fast for anyone who hasn’t proven he’s worth it.

Kiss My Astro: Your March Horoscopes

This month, Venusplanet of love and pleasure and decadent dragmoves through Ariessign of adventure, courage, and fresh starts. Venus in Aries sweetly kicks us in the butt and tells us we don’t have to go to the bar but we can’t stay home. Venus wants connection. Aries is impatient, bold, and spontaneous. Venus in Aries reminds us that lust and longing don’t like to be kept waiting.

So what’s holding you back? (Depending on your sign: maybe a lot, still). But whatever you’re handling right now, this month offers you fresh insight, fresh energy, and a good odds for some fresh romance.

Aries

Expect some extra attention coming your way this month. As Venus moves through your sign, everyone wants some of what you’ve got. Remember that you don’t have to rush, though. You may be a little more impatient, impulsive, and reckless than usual right now, so take a breath and remind yourself that “impatient longing” isn’t an excuse to do anything now that you’ll regret later.

Taurus

You’re going to want to get out of your own way this month, and it might be hard to even see how you’re blocking yourself from getting what you really want. Revise your understanding of what’s possible. Make room for an idea you discarded long ago as impractical. The main thing standing between you and exciting new discoveries is your firm conviction that nothing can be exciting or new without disrupting your world in uncomfortable ways. Now’s the time to let yourself be a little disrupted and a little uncomfortableit will be worth it.

Gemini

This is a month for dance parties, parades, playing music with an entire symphonypreferably while dancing through the streets in a parade. Everything ordinary in your life needs to fall back a little for you to connect to a larger sense of vitality and togetherness. Whatever romances may spark through this festive collectivity will be tied to the larger worlds you get to inhabit together.

Cancer

No one does grumpy like you do grumpy, and this is a month to make sure all that tired drama isn’t cluttering up your life and sending you into a major funk. Do some spring cleaning. Be ruthless about what you hold onto. Remember that people aren’t objects, you don’t need to throw any of them out, but you can definitely throw out the garbage they expect you to hold onto for them. Make room for loving your life again, and letting more love in.

Leo

Nothing is braver than a Leo who’s taken a blow to the ego and survived to shine another day. The last few months have put you through the ringer, and you’ve been facing some hard truths about yourself and your relationships. This month you get to leave a lot of that heaviness behind and trust that you’re still capable of delighting and amazing us. You’re hot when you’re humble. Show us what you’ve learned.

Virgo

You may have a perfect idea of the partner you’re looking for right now, whether that’s a partner for the night or for the rest of your life. Imagine him in vivid detail. Picture his height, weight, profession, favorite kinks, favorite foods, the way he’ll excel at all the things your ex could never get right. Got that image? Okay, now ditch it. Forget it completely. Right now, you need to be open to surprises. Here are the only questions you need to ask yourself about a potential new partner (once they’ve passed your real deal breakers): How does my body feel in his presence? Do I feel relaxed? Do I feel more alive?

Libra

This is a time to love the mess you’re in. All our romances get messy sometimes, and we often respond like it’s the biggest crisis that ever happened. Relationships trigger our deepest vulnerabilities, going way back to childhoodbut you’re an adult now. You can take a step back and smile at the clumsy ways we try and fail in love. Release old grudges, forgive yourself, and start again by cleaning up whatever’s your responsibilitybut not taking on anything that isn’t.

Scorpio

You’re losing your taste for a certain kind of interaction that used to thrill you. Recognize this and let it go, instead of trying to make it feel the way it used to. There’s an invitation this month to reconnect to passion and exploration, to some kind of adventure, but you’ll have to do it carefully because the voices guiding you toward what you want are still quiet and subtle. Take a few steps forward and a few steps back, veer in another direction, stand still and listen. Sooner or later, you’ll start to feel the call toward what you need now.

Sagittarius

No more moping. Whether you’re heartbroken, bored of first dates that go nowhere, or merely facing seasonal depression, this is a month that asks you to reach for your wig (or your leather chaps, or bow tie, or whatever you reach for when it’s time to get fancy) and become the excitement you want to see in the world. Stop comparing your current life to more exciting parts of your pastif you remember correctly, you were also more of a hot mess then. You’ve grown up a lot in the last few years, and now’s your chance to live it up without also wrecking yourself. Look for people who know how to do the same.

Capricorn

I’m so sorry, dear Capricorn, but this month is asking you to relax and enjoy what comes easily. To let go. To not be in control. To let things unfold in whatever meandering direction they find. I know this is hard for you, so I’ll give you an extra assignment just so you can prove how capable and competent you are: The bravest thing you can do this month is practice compassion for yourself, and model that kind of behavior to the people who look up to you.

Aquarius

Things aren’t nearly as bad as they seem right now, so whatever anxiety has been hovering around the back of your mind can get dealt with up front and without a lot of fuss. The last few months have been times of major transformation and transitionand you’ve still got six months left of that journeybut this month gets to be lighter, easier, and more joyous than the last handful. You’re good at seeing the funny side of thingsuse that skill to charm someone new with stories of what a wild ride it’s been.

Pisces

Imagine you could have whatever you wanted if you knew how to ask for it. It sounds easier than it really would bebecause your desires are usually more complex and shifting than you give them credit for. Can you remember the last time you were completely satisfied? How long did it last before you wanted something else, something new? This month, you get a few lessons about desire: Aim for the desires that are deepest, and remember to enjoy how things keep changing.

Kiss My Astro: Here’s Your February Horoscope

Aries

The most exciting adventures begin when you give up on knowing how they’ll end. Throw away any ideas you have about what you think you’re looking foror rather, what you think you’re destined to find. Let yourself be genuinely surprised this month, and remember that it pays to be patient. Don’t give up too soon just because you think you know where it’s goingthe longer you stick around and ask questions, the more you’ll learn about how this guy (or this party or this marriage or this orgy) isn’t anything like what you expected!

Taurus

Don’t get hung up this month on comparing yourself to anyone elseor even to your past self. Take stock of what’s made you who you are today. Everything about how you are at this moment is perfect when seen through the eyes of love. How easy is it to see that about yourself right now? Can you begin to forgive your imperfections and your past mistakes? Can you trust that someone new will see what is best about you, too? Take a leap of faith, and don’t let anyone shake your confidence.

Gemini

How many parties have you been to this month? Are you in hibernation mode, color coordinating your book collection and doing massive jigsaw puzzles? Or have you been the one party queer keeping the scene together, running all over the city trying to keep up with everyone? Chances are you’re overdoing it this month, in one direction or the other. Take a break from whichever role is starting to feel exhausting (even if it’s comfortable) and treat yourself to a very different adventure right now.

Cancer

You may be feeling a lot that’s hard to put into words this month. To be honest, you may be a little tired of feeling things so intensely. Nevertheless, you’re getting some important information from your heart right now and it’s going to help you come to terms with something from your past that you’re ready to release. Let your guard down, let someone see your vulnerability, and trust that you’ll come out the other side of this even stronger.

Leo

What if I told you that you don’t have to try to impress anyone anymorethat you’re impressive enough already? What’s blocking you from trusting that you are delightful and magnetic, endearing and adorable? The more you can trust this, right now, the easier it will be to open yourself up to really listening to and loving someone else without fear. Let yourself get curious.

Virgo

You shouldn’t have to do all the work in any relationship. If you have to initiate every date, if you stress over the right casual text banter, if you’re always the one to point out that a relationship has changedthis is the month you get to go on strike. Dare to not care. Remember that you deserve to have just as much fun as anyone else, if not more.

Libra

Honey, you’ve got no time to stay at home moping about the latest tragedy. Whether you’re nursing a broken heart or just way too tuned into each news story, you’ve been spending too much time bouncing between anxious and sad. This month, you get to turn that around. Your best medicine right now is a healthy sense of humor cut with a huge dose of defiance. Don’t like the stories on rotation in your head? Go out there and make a better one!

Scorpio

Let’s talk about trust. There’s no such thing as totally safe sex, only “safer sex”and there’s no such thing as totally safe love, either. But this month brings up all your deep feelings about safety, including what you need to really trust someone. Don’t think you can ever really trust anyone? Start by asking what you’d need to trust yourself. Once you know how it feels to make good decisions for yourself, it’ll be much easier to see who else is out there that’s worth teaming up withfor one night or a lifetime.

Sagittarius

Relationships shouldn’t be like Groundhog Day, where you have to repeat the same mistakes over and over until you finally change something. Too often, though, that’s the path you’re on. It’s not that you’re a slow learner, you’re just really fast to jump into a new connection and think it will be entirely different than your last one! This month gives you a great chance to end an old pattern. What are you totally done repeating? Write it down, tape it to your mirror, and say goodbye.

Capricorn

Sure, you’re sexy when you channel Don Draper or any other cliché of strong, silent masculinity. But that doesn’t have to be the only wig in your box, as it were. Have a ball playing whatever role floats your boat, but remember that in any intimate relationship you have to be emotionally vulnerable if you want any of the good stuffbeing seen and loved for all of your parts, not just the ones that would work to impress a stranger in a bar. Whatever type of relationship you’re looking for right now, dare to expect more from your partner by showing them more of yourself.

Aquarius

The next six months will begin a brand new chapter in your romantic life. If you’re partnered, expect some revelations and changes in that partnership that will help you both uncover unspoken assumptions and feelings. If you’re looking for a new connection, prepare to be totally surprised by what you find. Just remember that learning new dance steps can make you feel a little uncoordinated at first, but practice will make perfect!

Pisces

It’s easy for you to open your heart to just about anyone if they tell you a sad story or even just sigh loudly in your presence. This month, remember that you don’t have to take on everyone else’s troubles, even if it does give you a nice warm thrill to help out. Find those warm thrills by giving a little extra energy to the people who really matter, and by saving some for yourself at the end of the day.