More Than a Quarter of the Planet Believes Gay People Should Be Thrown in Prison

Amid a global crackdown on LGBTQ rights, an international survey suggests that more than a quarter of the planet supports criminalizing homosexuality.

Of the 77 countries polled in the 2017 ILGA-RIWI Global Attitudes Survey, 28.5 percent of respondents believed people found guilty of homosexual activity should “be charged as criminals.” More than 100,000 people participated in the report.

Researchers found the strongest opposition to the existence of LGBTQ people in Africa, where a majority of participants favored prosecutions for same-sex behavior. Forty-five percent of Africans believe homosexual activity should be illegal, while just 36 percent believe it should be legalized. Support for same-sex relationships reached as low as the single digits in the 15 African countries surveyed, as the LGBTQ advocacy group ILGA notes.

Asia follows close behind: 33 percent of those polled believe that homosexuality should be a punishable offense, whereas 42 percent opposed that statement.

A majority of respondents in North America, Europe, and Oceania had no problem with relationships between people of the same gender. The latter group showed the highest support for legalizing same-sex activity: 63 percent of Pacific Islanders approved of homosexuality.

The survey shows that pro-LGBTQ support is strongly tied to whether participants are personally acquainted with a queer or trans person.

Respondents who say they know someone in a same-sex relationship are twice as likely to oppose the criminalization of homosexuality than people who don’t know a partnered LGBTQ individual. However, 40 percent of those polled say that they do not have someone in their lives who is dating a member of the same gender.

Globally, more than 70 countries have laws on the books that mandate prison sentences or even the death penalty for LGBTQ individuals.

International opposition to queer and trans rights has been in the spotlight this year following numerous attacks against the LGBTQ community in countries like Azerbaijan, Chechnya, and Egypt. Lawmakers in Egypt are attempting to push one of the world’s harshest anti-gay laws following the arrest of more than 71 people at a September concert. They were apprehended for holding a Pride flag.

Read the entire ILGA report here.

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The ‘Advocate’ Sat on News About Kevin Spacey to Protect His Privacy. What?

By now, almost everyone knows about or has read the BuzzFeed expose on actor Kevin Spacey, in which actor Anthony Rapp recounts unwanted alleged sexual advances he experienced at age 14 from Spacey. The day following, Bruce Steele, a former editor at Out and The Advocate wrote an essay for USA Today that goes into further detail about a point that’s glossed over in the original article.

The original article, in showing that tales of Spacey’s abuse had circulated for some time, mentions an Advocate Q with Rapp in 2001, in which Rapp spoke out about Spacey’s abuse. Except, as BuzzFeed details, Spacey’s name was redacted. According to Steele, the redaction was not at Rapp’s request. Keeping Spacey’s name out of the article was adhering to a commitment from Out and The Advocate, sister magazines both owned by LPI Media at the time, not to out any closeted celebrities.

“At Out magazine, we repeatedly told everyone that the name of the magazine was an adjective, not a verb,” Steele wrote in his essay. “ We did not out people, preferring to give them the time and space to make that decision themselves, a healthier route to honesty on both sides.”

Outing remains an ethical minefield. While the standard answer to, “Should we out this person?” remains a pretty solid “Hell no,” the lines sometimes blur. In 2014, reporters wrestled with the question after journalist Itay Hod seemingly outed former Illinois congressman Aaron Schock in a Facebook post. Outlets then pondered the ethics of outing a public figure who espouses anti-gay views sometimes with multiple takes on the same site.

Then there are outings that are just not OK, like when Gawker outed a Conde Nast executive for no reason. Media outlets and journalists lashed out at Gawker for its decision, with the Huffington Post’s Gabriel Arana calling it “gay-shaming, not journalism.” (On a side note, Arana also said that outing of public figures is OK in the case of anti-gay Republicans.) Gawker eventually took the story down.

But the ethics of outing weigh even heavier on queer media, which, while dedicated to journalistic ethics, is also an intra-community endeavor. While we report the news, we also do it to empower queer people.

Which makes this defense of Spacey mind-boggling. Queer media, and queer people, work hard every day to dispel the notion that all gay men are pedophiles. In protecting Spacey, the magazine protected Spacey’s alleged assault, not his sexuality.

In fact, what BuzzFeed’s piece did was not an outing. Rather than describe someone’s sexual orientation, BuzzFeed described a specific behavior, an isolated incident. Most queer people would probably agree to two things: that nonconsensual sexual advances on a minor does not constitute queer sexuality and that an isolated incident cannot be used to prescribe anyone a sexual orientation. What BuzzFeed did was out an underaged alleged sexual assaulter, not out a gay man. Spacey confirmed this by later coming out on Twitter.

A “no outing” policy should not shield people like Spacey. A blanket “no outing” policy that doesn’t bend, that treats every closeted person as worthy of the same protections, is a neutral one. And, to paraphrase Desmond Tutu, to stay neutral in situations of injustice is to side with the oppressor. Queer people are no monolith and there are those who need the watchful eye of queer media. Choosing to out a gay person in power who would threaten the safety, security or autonomy of another queer person or the queer community is to choose to side with the oppressed queer person, not the queer person with power.

If queer media cannot side with those in our community who need us the most, and uplift their stories, then queer media is toothless.

Kevin Spacey Should Be Cancelled, Not ‘House of Cards’

The finale of House of Cards’ fifth season ended with Claire Underwood turning to the camera as she uttered two simple words: “My turn.” For many fans, that moment represented the series’ apex: when the show’s Lady Macbeth, long in the shadows, would take control of the narrative. It was Claire’s time.

Her big moment is in jeopardy following the news that Netflix would be canceling its flagship drama following numerous sexual harassment allegations against Kevin Spacey. Actor Anthony Rapp, best known as Mark in Broadway’s RENT, accused the 58-year-old of propositioning him when Rapp was just 14. In an official statement, the streaming service said it was “deeply troubled” by the news. Spacey not only stars in the series, Netflix’s first foray into original content, but also serves as executive producer.

Netflix should be commended for its proactive response to such despicable behavior, moving much more quickly than The Weinstein Company did when faced with even more serious allegations.

But it’s totally unjust to punish the show’s cast and its fans for the monstrous wrongdoings of one of its actors, as well as diminishing its feminist promise. House of Cards has long struggled with female characters, and the First Lady deserves to lead the showas the cliffhanger promised she finally would. Nobody cares about Frank Underwood, and few would miss him if Spacey were instead fired from the show. That would be the justice we deserve.

While Frank is the show’s narrator and protagonist, let’s be honest: House of Cards fans have been waiting for Claire to murder himor at least usurp him. Plus, Claire already signaled that she’d be taking over narration duties.

Claire Underwood, as played by the excellent Robin Wright, is a politically-minded feminist’s wet dream. Claire is stylish and powerful, elegant but strong, and terse but ruthless. Threatening to “obliterate” her enemies with ruthless conviction, Claire consistently proves that she’s just as cutthroat as her husband. Remember when she made a Russian ambassador watch her pee while telling him about a deal he’d just lost, or when she promised to let her coworker’s baby “wither and die” inside of her if she disobeyed Claire?

Most notably, she’s also one of the only female characters to survive on House of Cards.

House of Cards, like fellow prestige show Game of Thrones, disposes of its characters unceremoniously, the body count an indicator of the barbarous reality of politics. But the women on House of Cards often meet their ends in ways that are pointedly misogynistic.

The young, ambitious journalist Zoe Barnes (Kate Mara) was the defining female lead in the earliest episodes of the show. During the show’s second season premiere, Barnes was shoved in front of a moving subway car. The development, which followed the British series on which House of Cards was based, was a necessary device to drive the arc of the show. However, it also set the tone for how its female characters would be portrayed: dispensable.

LeAnn Harvey, a Texas political strategist played by Neve Campbell, met a similar fate in the House of Cards’ fifth season. The administration utilized her skill set until she was no longer neededthen had her murdered in a violent car crash. (Viewers, however, never saw her body, yet another season five cliffhanger.)

Rachel Posner, a sex worker played by Rachel Brosnahan, was scrapped and buried by President Underwood’s Chief of Staff (Michael Kelly) in Season 3.

That pattern is true of nearly every woman on the show: except for Claire.

When Claire broke the fourth wall in the final moments of House of Cards’ last season, effectively overthrowing Frank, it was what so many of us had been waiting for. Just as Game of Thrones’ Khaleesi rose from her ashes, Claire studied the powerful and abusive men around her and then beats them at their own game. This retribution is what House of Cards had been leading up to for five seasonsfor Claire and every woman dispensed of on the show.

The next season was set to be Claire’s “started from the bottom, now we’re here” moment, but she may never get it.

Although Netflix has claimed that it plans to follow through with one final installment, the Maryland-set production has been suspended indefinitely amid talks of a spinoff. With former Boston news anchor Heather Unruh and others coming forward with their own allegations against Spacey, this likely isn’t going away. Unruh tweeted that the Oscar-winner “assaulted a loved one” prior to Rapp’s claims coming to light.

It’s clear that Netflix, like many of us, doesn’t know how to respond to our culture’s #MeToo moment. More than 60 women, including Gwyneth Paltrow, Angelina Jolie, and Mira Sorvino, accused Harvey Weinstein of sexual misconduct as numerous men in the industry are being held accountable for their toxic behavior. Recent targets of the aptly named “The Weinstein Effect” include Andy Dick and James Toback, each accused of numerous accounts of harassment and assault.

Unfortunately, there’s no blanket statement or one solution on how to deal with sexual harassment. Each case is different, traumatic, and delicate for the victims.

Weinstein’s case differs greatly from the allegations against Spacey, as his conduct points to a systemic, company-wide issue of complicity. Many board members, as well as the directors and actors he worked with, were aware of the abuse and perpetuated it by remaining silent. Director Quentin Tarantino, a longtime Weinstein collaborator, apologized for not doing more to stop the abuse. “I wish I had taken responsibility for what I heard,” Tarantino told The New York Times.

The same isn’t necessarily true with House of Cards: The show’s creator, Beau Willimon, claimed he was never aware of any inappropriate behavior from Spacey, whether on or off the set. While there are no claims at this time that the show’s cast or crew is implicated in the actor’s wrongdoings, Gawker did report multiple anonymous allegations of Spacey harassing production assistants on the House of Cards set in 2015.

Spacey should be punished to the full extent of the allegations. His behavior is disgusting and illegal. It’s a massive sign of progress that Netflix and Willimon took the issue of sexual harassment seriously. That likely wouldn’t have happened if not for the courage and bravery of the women who came forward against Weinstein, as well as everyone who has been sharing their stories of sexual assault on Twitter and Facebook.

But Claire Underwood deserves better. She has always deserved better. The irony of the situation is not lost on me: With Kevin Spacey robbing her of her shining moment, the current circumstances feel like a page ripped right out of a House of Cards script.

Last season Claire poisoned her boyfriend, then seduced him and watched him die while he was still inside of her. The death was gruesome and incomprehensibly evil, but it was a culmination of every affliction we’ve seen Claire endure throughout her political career: Every death she’s covered up for, every vituperative word of abuse, and every moment she’s laid dormant in the backgroundwaiting to strike. When the iron was hot, the First Lady showed us just how far she was willing to go to get hers.

If The Weinstein Effect has proven anything, it’s that abusive men should be dethroned by women who deliver their comeuppance. It’s our turn.

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Hollywood’s Sexual Abuse Problem Is Bigger Than Kevin Spacey

“Just come inside. Suck my dick.”

He smelled like liquor and sweat and could barely keep his eyes open. Presumably it had something to do with the handful of assorted, nameless pills he’d taken from the dish on the back of the toilet at the Playboy Mansion.


He’d snuck me in. I had a movie coming out on Nickelodeon in a few months and I couldn’t be seen there, but we went. He wanted me to go. When it became clear he would soon get sloppy, I drove him home.

“Just come in. Suck it. You know you love it.”

This was all he ever seemed to do with me: take me to events, get obliterated, and coerce me into pleasuring him. He was handsome, and his cock was nice. There were times when I thought I’d been having fun. That I was choosing to do what I did. The night of the Playboy Mansion, however, I felt nauseous at the prospect. I wanted him to get me auditions, do his job, and treat me like an actual client.

But more than anything in that moment, I wanted to go home. I said no and then he was silent for a moment.

“Who else do you even have to hook up with?”

No one. I had no one. He knew it. He knew how alone I was because he was one of the people telling me how I afraid of myself I needed to be in order to work. He told me that I could neverunder any circumstanceset foot in a gay club, look for guys online, hookup with men, or even go on a date. Rumors would spread about me. I was “gay enough as it is,” he said. I shouldn’t be adding fuel to my flaming fire.

This was a man who, along with so many others, had convinced me so thoroughly that my sexuality was a liabilityespecially to my ability to find workthat I now found myself cowering in the same dark closet I’d almost died fighting my way out of years before.

I was outed to my family at 18. Before they kicked me out of the house, my parents told me they’d wished I’d died when I was a child. (I was diagnosed with cancer at just 10 years old, given a 50/50 chance to live.) That Christmas they blamed me for my mother’s attempted suicide. I contemplated suicide myself.

Instead I packed up everything I had and moved to Los Angeles. There I began to build a chosen family on a foundation of love and acceptance. I’d finally begun to love and accept myself.

But just three years after starting my new life, I found myself working with a team of people who’d successfully convinced me to hate and hide the person I was all over again. Many people contributed to my fear and despair, but only one of them used it as a way to pressure me into getting him off: my manager.

I went inside, gave him what he wanted, and left. I still remember barely being able to see the bends in Laurel Canyon through the fog and tears that night.

Signing with him and my co-managera womanthe year before had been a dream come true. I’d moved to Los Angeles from Oklahoma just two years earlier, and the management company, Untitled Entertainment, was the biggest in town at the time. I’d been fooling around with one of the woman’s clients, another actor who was also closeted (he has, since then, come out publicly).

He played her a recording of us singing together and she insisted on meeting me. I went to Untitled, met with her and another manager, and they decided to co-manage me.

It was a dream come truethe break I’d been waiting for.

A few days after I signed with them, the woman emailed me and asked me to meet the man later that night. We met in Los Feliz. He spoke French to someone outside the bar and told me he was fluent. He ordered me a glass of wine. It felt more like a date than a business meeting.

“So. We need to talk.”

I expected him to tell be about my career trajectory: the classes he wanted me to take and meetings he would be setting me up on. I was ready.

“About this” He slowly, deliberately, looked me up and down. I don’t remember everything I wore that night, but I vividly recall the feeling of wanting to crawl in a hole and die.

“You’ve got to tone it down dude. This is too much. They’re gonna see you from a mile away.”

This was the purpose of our “meeting” that night. He hoped to plant the seeds of fear in me, to convince me that I was wrong for being myself, and to tell me that if I wanted to work with the “big boys,” I needed to stop looking, acting, and talking like, well, me. To this day, I remember how he laughed at the hat I was wearing and told me to burn it. It was a newsboy hat (and it was really fucking cute).

Conveniently enough, the bar where we’d met was walking distance to his place. His boyfriend was out of town. I should come back with him.

So I did.

We sat on his couch and he unzipped immediately. He asked me to talk about his dick and compliment it before he had me suck it. I obliged to both requests.

The next day, I wrote a breathless, enthusiastic email to the woman who was also managing me.

“We had such a great talk last night, and I totally get it about all the gay stuff. Thank you for setting that up! Really excited about everything and so thrilled to be working with you guys!”

Thinking about that email now makes me want to vomit.

To be perfectly honest, I didn’t even realize I had experienced these traumas during my career as an actor. It wasn’t until the deluge of #MeToo stories hit the internet that I started to examine things a little more closely. More than 60 women (at the time of writing) have come forward to report that Harvey Weinstein had sexually harassed or assault them over the course of his three-decade career, including Angelina Jolie and Gwyneth Paltrow.

Others are still out there, silent in fear.

Shortly after the hashtag began trending, a friend posted about his experience with a predatory agent on Facebook. It hit too close to home.

We, as gay men, are forbidden from being our authentic selves and made to fear the very fiber of who we are in order to work and to pursue our dreams. But far too many of us have had that fear used against us in order to have sex with us.

And none of us were even men at the time. We were just boys.

As I read my friend’s recent Facebook post, the anxiety, depression, and deep, aching fear came surging back to me. I remembered all the times that this man who was supposed to be protecting me and guiding my career mocked me, belittled me, and used the most tender parts of my identity to get what he wanted from me.

Kevin Spacey is merely one wolf in a pack whose power runs far and deep within Hollywood. Far too often, young boys in Hollywood are sniffed out and thenif suspected to be susceptible preycornered. In his allegations against the Oscar-winner, actor Anthony Rapp claims that Spacey made sure that he was alone. He stood in the doorway to prevent the young actor, then just 14, and pinned him on the bed.

Rapp told BuzzFeed that he was able to “squirm away.”

But far too many of us aren’t able to get away. We are manipulated and violated until any semblance of self-worth is gone completely. Multiple actorsincluding my aforementioned friend, Blaise Lipmanhave come forward with reports that former APA agent Tyler Grasham sexually assaulted them. In his Facebook post, Blaise claimed that the epidemic of sexual abuse in Hollywood is “bigger than Weinstein.”

“The conversation has moved on to the size of this epidemic and how to dismantle the system that protects these predators,” he said. “And it’s given space and courage for victims to speak up, against their abuse.”

After years without any communication, Grasham poked Blaise on Facebook.

How many boys did men like Spacey and Grasham make hate themselves? Boys who thought they had to do what these men wanted to get ahead? Or thought they needed help from these men to get work, thought they’d just found their big break?

For gay boys trying to make it in Hollywood, it goes beyond the age-old trope of the “casting couch.” Games of psychological warfare are played to force these boys back into a closet before preying upon them. An entire industryactors, agents, directors, managers, and producershas been complicit in allowing this environment to flourish for nearly a century.

Blaise and I were just two of the young men fed to the wolves, slaughtered like lambs. There are countless more like us, and more are already coming forward.

Lipman’s agent, who has since been fired from his job, is currently being investigated for sexual assault after multiple victims have filed police reports attesting to the abuse they experienced. After assaulting my friend, Grasham set him up on a meeting with a manager.

I’ll give you one guess as to who that manager was.

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Our Fave Halloween Costumes From Beyoncé, Ariana Grande, And More

Another Halloween has come and gone, and all I can say is WHO PUT ALL THIS GLITTER IN MY EYE. While I wipe down my corneas, work off that Halloween hangover with this roundup of some of our favorite celebrity costumes. We’ve got Beyoncé, Gaga, Demi, Arianaeven some rando who’s totally not famous, but whose costume is so good we have decided to stan forever. Enjoy.

1. Queen Bey x Queen Bee! Beyoncé dressed up as Lil’ Kim in Missy Elliott’s “The Rain” video, while Jay-Z did Biggie.

2. Jeannie Mai from The Real also did Lil’ Kim for a group costume with her co-hosts. Left to right, that’s Tamera Mowry as Nicki Minaj, Jeannie as Kim, Loni Love as Beyoncé, and Adrienne Bailon as Cardi B.

Happy Halloween! 🍃🎃 @therealdaytime as… @nickiminaj @lilkimthequeenbee @beyonce & @iamcardib! Watch my IG story! 🎥

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3. Lady Gaga went as that Edward Scissorhands costume idea I had back in tenth grade that I got really into before I realized I could never execute it even half this well.

#halloween #HAUS

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4. Once again, Heidi Klum went as the most fucks given (i.e., Michael Jackson’s werewolf from the “Thriller” video).

5. I hear that Kim Kardashian dressed up as Aaliyah over the weekend, which reminds me! Normani Kordei from Fifth Harmony also dressed up as the Queen of the Damned.

6. Wait, Kim Kardashian also dressed up as Selena? Audacious! Here’s Demi Lovato’s take on the iconic singer from a couple days ago.

6. Wait, Kim Kardashian also dressed up as Selena? Audacious! Here’s Demi Lovato’s take on the iconic singer from a couple days ago.

7. Demi also dressed up as a “hot cop,” whichehso I’m gonna pretend she dressed up as A Person Who Still Goes Into Gas Stations.


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8. Moving on, AHHHHHHHH. Ariana Grande went as the haute binch Milla Jovovich plays in Zoolander as part of a couple’s costume with Mac Miller.

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I do not like snoopy reporter with lack of fashion sense…… not one little bit

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relax Derek

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9. Kelly Rowland gave us Grace Jones.


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10. Princess Nokia went with Lola Bunny.

11. And CupcakKe’s the “Dick Collector.” Hello, BCALLA original!

12. After workshopping some terrible “put the bass in your white walker” wordplay for about two or three minutes, I’m just gonna go with Katya dressed up as an Anna Wintour x Game of Thrones mashup.

Wintour Is Coming: The December Issue @gameofthrones @voguemagazine

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13. Busy Philipps’ Hedwig fucking rules.

And from the front. #hedwigandtheangryinch 💋

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14. So does Chance the Rapper’s Tupac.

15. And whoever tf this is as the sloth from Zootopia. Happy Halloween!

Protesters Burn Pride Flags After Georgian Soccer Star Comes Out in Support of LGBTQ Equality

Eight protesters have been arrested following a demonstration against a Georgian soccer player who wore a rainbow armband in support of the LGBTQ community.

The scene that erupted on Tuesday in the Eastern European nation was chaotic and volatile. Armed with smoke bombs and flares, opponents of LGBTQ rights burned a rainbow flag outside the Georgian Football Federation (GFF) headquarters in the capital of Tbilisi. The protesters, many of whom were members of the right-wing Georgian March, shouted anti-gay epithets.

No one was injured, according to the Associated Press.

Yesterday’s protests were ignited by Georgian soccer star Guram Kashia, who donned the rainbow Pride symbol earlier this month for Coming Out Day. The 30-year-old defender, who also serves on the country’s national team, sported the offending armband in an October game. The gesture made Kashia the first player on an Eastern European team to support LGBTQ equality.

“I always support human beings’ freedom, and I’m always against the violence,” he would claim in a subsequent interview with a Dutch news network.

Both the Georgian Football Federation, the governing body of the country’s soccer club, and President Giorgi Margvelashvili have supported Kashia’s advocacy. Margvelashvili, who nixed a national referendum to block same-sex marriage last year, claimed in a statement posted to Facebook that “everyone has the right [to] freedom of expression.”

“We should respect human rights and liberties,” he said on Monday. “I stand with the unanimous support that sporting society has expressed toward Guram Kashia.”

But the Georgian March has called for the resignation of the entire Georgian Football Federation for standing behind Kashia. The nationalist hate group caused controversy earlier this year after threatening to rape Tatia Dolidze, Georgia’s youth representative to the United Nations, over her criticism of the organization.

Although the Eastern European nation is often touted as a LGBTQ rights success story following its transition from Communism, Tuesday’s violence was a reminder of how fraught the situation remains.

Georgia is one of the only post-Soviet countries with anti-LGBTQ nondiscrimination protections at the federal level. Ranked as Europe’s 23rd most progressive country in a 2016 report from ILGA, it also has hate crime laws that are inclusive of sexual orientation. Out of the 49 countries surveyed, Georgia placed ahead of Italy and Switzerland.

But the country’s LGBTQ community has experienced violent opposition markedly similar to this week’s protests in Tbilisi.

But the Georgian March has called for the resignation of the entire Georgian Football Federation for standing behind Kashia. The nationalist hate group caused controversy earlier this year after threatening to rape Tatia Dolidze, Georgia’s youth representative to the United Nations, over her criticism of the organization.

Although the Eastern European nation is often touted as a LGBTQ rights success story following its transition from Communism, Tuesday’s violence was a reminder of how fraught the situation remains.

Georgia is one of the only post-Soviet countries with anti-LGBTQ nondiscrimination protections at the federal level. Ranked as Europe’s 23rd most progressive country in a 2016 report from ILGA, it also has hate crime laws that are inclusive of sexual orientation. Out of the 49 countries surveyed, Georgia placed ahead of Italy and Switzerland.

But the country’s LGBTQ community has experienced violent opposition markedly similar to this week’s protests in Tbilisi.

A 2013 rally to observe the International Day Against Homophobia was interrupted by an anti-LGBTQ mob led by clergy members in the Georgian Orthodox Church. The riotous crowd, who numbered more than a thousand people, chased away attendees of the event as they reportedly screamed: “Kill them! Tear them to pieces!” Twenty-eight people were injured in the attack, and 14 were hospitalized.

A poll from the World Value Survey found that 93 percent of Georgians would be uncomfortable living next to an LGBTQ person.

Kiss My Astro: Your November Horoscope


This isn’t the easiest time to go after what you want, but it’s also the best time to find what’s really good for you. Think about what choices you usually make and where they land youespecially if you have a pattern you and all your friends can recognize. Choose more wisely right now and you’ll be able to write a whole new script.


Everything changes. Even the best relationships have to struggle out of whatever pleasant ruts they sink into from time to time. This year is all about deep change for you, and it will strongly affect your relationships. You don’t have to be scared of losing anything that’s really good for youinstead, you’re gaining more insight into everything that isn’t. Make changes as you need to. Saying no to what you don’t want makes room for all the exciting new options to come to light.


There is no one like you. Remember this, if you’re starting to feel like just one more tiny headshot in an ocean of hotties who make more money and have cooler vacations than you. You don’t have to impress everyone, you just have to be genuine and trust that you are enough for the right ones. Tell your story. Be vulnerable. Let even the dark parts come through with a light heart. Remember that you deserve love and it will be easy to act as though you already have itbecause you do.


Sometimes you just don’t feel like going out, getting dandy, grooming yourself, and remembering how to sound suave to some total or near-total stranger. Sometimes you’d rather curl up with someone you’ve known for years who doesn’t mind your stubble and cheesy taste in movies. This is a month when comfort feels like a higher priority than passionbut don’t get it twisted: you don’t have to sacrifice one to have the other. Get creative about how to combine the two, ideally in the same relationship.


You might need to talk out a problem to get a better perspective on it right now. It’s likely that whatever you think is going on isn’t the whole story. Watch out for getting too wrapped up in your head right now, though. Don’t ignore your heartand some other organs. Welcome experiences that help you understand your world as stranger and more exhilarating than you expected.


Nobody’s going to be any good for you if you don’t share the same values. You may be riding out a not-so-fulfilling scene with someone because you’re hoping he’ll manage to meet your needs more often than not. Ask yourself how hard you work for meeting someone where they’re at, and how much you ask anyone to work on your behalf. What would it be like to date someone who cared about exactly what you care aboutand showed it through their actions? If that’s not what you’ve got right now, it’s time to ask yourself why.


Whatever perks there are to being a wallflower, this isn’t the time to find out. You’ve got desiresneeds, even. Don’t let opportunities slip by you this month. Be bold and brave. Above all, don’t be ashamed to share your real desires and invite someone to make you as happy as you usually like to make others.


Welcome to a year of revealing adventures! While the next twelve months will be deeply transformative, this is a month that’s asking you to totally surrender control. Your desires are shifting and transforming; you are shifting and transforming. It’s okay not to know yet what shape you’ll take next. In any relationship, let this be a time of curiosity and experimentationresist any pressure to name or define anything that you’re still not sure about.


This month you may feel pressured to make a good impression when you’re feeling chaotic and confused inside. Remember that feeling confident comes from doing whatever it is that requires confidence. You don’t have to fake it till you make ityou can just be really honest about feeling intimidated as you go out there and impress everyone anyway. You’ve got this, even if you feel you don’t.


It’s important that a lover understand what you have to offerwhich is plentybut you’re often more shy to ask what they can do for you. Or too proud. This month you’ll be sought after in some big ways, so make sure you don’t retreat to where it’s comfortable: staying in control at all times. Allow yourself at least a few hours every day where you don’t have to be good at anything or good for anyone.


You’ve already learned too much to stick around in any situation where you’re spinning your wheels. Relationships need to stimulate you and educate you right now or you’re doing it wrong. Let love expand your horizons. Let a new lover teach you something you’ve never known before. Don’t settle for monotony!


Now’s the time to go deep. What comes up in your relationships right now will push you right up against the edge of your comfort zone, and most likely a little further. Remember that passion, love, lust, and attachment all come with risks. Fear is what keeps us stuck not taking the risks that matter. Your mission this month? Gather your courage and take a plunge.